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Dr. Debra

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Professionalism Backed by Impeccable Academic Credentials

Dr. Debra, author of five books, including her new release Sassy & Rude: Her New Attitude, has been featured on multiple national television and radio shows as a relationship expert, and has co-hosted her own podcast achieving over a million listeners. Whether in print, on-air, or in her office, Dr. Debra delivers her message that it’s never too late to over- come adversity and learn to thrive

Professionalism Backed by Impeccable Academic Credentials

Dr. Debra, author of five books, including her new release Sassy & Rude: Her New Attitude, has been featured on multiple national television and radio shows as a relationship expert, and has co-hosted her own podcast achieving over a million listeners. Whether in print, on-air, or in her office, Dr. Debra delivers her message that it’s never too late to over- come adversity and learn to thrive.

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Sassy and Rude is an illuminating resource for mothers and daughters everywhere! Filled with mindful tools, enlightening stories, and meaningful guidance, this insightful book is a roadmap to heal, love and strengthen the connection between you.

Kelly Browne – Author of 101 Ways to Create Mindful Forgiveness

Her new book Sassy and Rude provides tangible advice for you to:

  • Connect the dots between your childhood wounds, your parenting style and your daughter’s sassy factor.
  • Gain deeper insight into your daughter’s wounded heart.
  • Stop power struggles once and for all by facing conflict in more constructive ways.
  • Accept responsibility for your own role in creating the rifts, leaving shame and guilt behind.
  • Generate realistic expectations coupled with loving boundaries.
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It's important to remember that self-compassion is It's important to remember that self-compassion is a crucial part of kindness.

Taking time to nurture your own well-being allows you to be more present and empathetic towards others. This might involve setting aside moments for relaxation, pursuing hobbies that bring you joy, or simply acknowledging your feelings without judgment.

☁️ By treating yourself with the same understanding and patience you offer to others, you create a balanced and fulfilling life.

💡 Remember, kindness is a gift that grows the more you share it, with yourself and the world around you.

relationship expert | self care tip | Personal Growth | inner child healing | #youareenough #parentsupport #relationshiptips
How do we get back to our instincts of saying, “no How do we get back to our instincts of saying, “no” when we truly mean it?

Sadly, the repercussions of saying “yes” when we mean “no” can be quite severe. We can easily become oppressed to other people’s demands and expectations and lose sight of our own needs and desires. 

Also known as becoming a “doormat,” where others walk all over us. Sound familiar? If so, reclaim your right to say “no” by practicing the following:

1️⃣ Accept that the word “no” has survival value. If we say “yes” to everyone else’s demands or requests, we diminish our capacity to advocate for ourselves.
2️⃣ Become aware of your fears about saying “no”. Do you fear you will be seen as a difficult person? Do you fear people will get angry with you? Once determined, try to walk through your fear, rather than give it power.
3️⃣ Allow others the right to say “no.” Step back and be mindful that other people have busy lives too—and if someone says “no” to you, it’s usually not a personal rejection!
4️⃣ Claim the right to say “yes.” Being able to say “no” doesn’t prohibit you from being agreeable, it just gives you the freedom to choose so that you don’t continually get yourself trapped in a corner.
5️⃣ Disconnect the negative association to the word “no.” While it can be a very powerful word, it’s simply a means to set a boundary–not to be used to be hurtful to others.
6️⃣ Accept that you cannot control other people’s thoughts or actions, but you do have the right to take charge of your own life. If someone can’t handle your right to say “no”, they have the problem, not you.

Most importantly, keep in mind that simple and direct communication is far better than beating around the bush. For example, your friend asks you to do a favor for her and you really don’t have the time. It would be far healthier for both of you to politely decline the request by saying something like: “Thanks for asking me, but I’m just too busy right now”.

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You are not lazy. You are exhausted. Rest so you You are not lazy.
You are exhausted.

Rest so you can begin again. You owe it to yourself.

Taking time to recharge is essential for both your mental and physical well-being. By allowing yourself moments of rest, you empower yourself to return to your tasks with renewed energy and focus. 

Remember, self-care is not a luxury; it's a necessity. Embrace the pauses, and know that you're nurturing your resilience and creativity.

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Self-hatred, feelings of inadequacy, envy of other Self-hatred, feelings of inadequacy, envy of others, and insecurity plague so many women.

The more we buy into the media-prescribed ideal and believe we fall short, the more ammunition we give to the process of self-attack. The problem extends beyond physicality. Many women also devalue aspects of their personality. As such, we easily get sucked into a perpetual cycle of changing our beings, never fully appreciating our outer or inner essence. Plus, self-devaluation breeds a tendency to compare ourselves less favorably to others around us, and the vicious cycle ensues.

Whenever we pursue change because of self-consciousness, fear of being different from others, or because of trying to achieve an unreal standard, we enter into dangerous territory. We keep ourselves prisoners of some unreasonable standard, and we can never truly live happily.

After thirty years of clinical practice as a psychologist, I’ve come to believe that the key to happiness and peace is to embrace ourselves fully, both our strengths and our limitations.

If you have a quality that you don’t truly care for, it’s okay to work on changing it. But it has to come from a place of acceptance and self-love, not from a pool of criticism and hostility. Plus, the best bonus of all is that when we cherish our own uniqueness, we open the door to being able to celebrate and respect differences in others. Only then can we finally rid ourselves of conditions like prejudice, sexism, and racism.
Take the risk. 💌 Speak up, start small, and move Take the risk. 💌

Speak up, start small, and move toward the thing that feels just a bit bigger than your comfort zone. If it works, you’ll feel joy. If it fumbles, you’ll gain wisdom.

Either way, you grow, and you move forward. Most importantly, every brave step you take becomes part of the meaningful life you’re building. ✨

#TakeTheRisk #GrowthMindset #ChooseBrave #PersonalGrowth #JoyAndWisdom #KeepGoing
5 signs that you are gaslighting yourself: ⛽️ Inv 5 signs that you are gaslighting yourself:

⛽️ Invalidating: You find yourself invalidating your own feelings, saying things like, “I’m overreacting”, “other people are worse off”, or “it’s not a big deal”.
⛽️ Excusing: You make excuses for someone else’s bad behavior. Instead of acknowledging their toxic behavior, you believe that the problem is you.
⛽️ Judgmental: You believe that you are too sensitive, so you are ashamed of your emotions and suppress them.
⛽️ Should-ing: “I shouldn't feel this way”, “I should be over this by now”, “I should just be happy”, “I shouldn't be upset by this.”
⛽️ Not Trusting: You second-guess yourself & ignore your intuition and your own judgment because you don’t trust yourself anymore.

Don't allow yourself to be your own worst enemy. Recognizing behaviors like this allows us to reconnect with our true selves and avoid falling into these traps in the future.

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A little bit of light can go a long way. Even the A little bit of light can go a long way. Even the smallest spark of hope, kindness, or faith can soften a hard day and remind us that healing is still possible. Hold onto the light, even if it feels small right now. It helps to keep the darkness at bay. ✨

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This is the evidence-based reason that your fiancé This is the evidence-based reason that your fiancé reminded you of your Mom last night.

Has this happened to you?

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Dr. Debra received her master’s and doctorate degree in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, Los Angeles

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