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Dr. Debra

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Professionalism Backed by Impeccable Academic Credentials

Dr. Debra, author of five books, including her new release Sassy & Rude: Her New Attitude, has been featured on multiple national television and radio shows as a relationship expert, and has co-hosted her own podcast achieving over a million listeners. Whether in print, on-air, or in her office, Dr. Debra delivers her message that it’s never too late to over- come adversity and learn to thrive

Professionalism Backed by Impeccable Academic Credentials

Dr. Debra, author of five books, including her new release Sassy & Rude: Her New Attitude, has been featured on multiple national television and radio shows as a relationship expert, and has co-hosted her own podcast achieving over a million listeners. Whether in print, on-air, or in her office, Dr. Debra delivers her message that it’s never too late to over- come adversity and learn to thrive.

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Sassy and Rude is an illuminating resource for mothers and daughters everywhere! Filled with mindful tools, enlightening stories, and meaningful guidance, this insightful book is a roadmap to heal, love and strengthen the connection between you.

Kelly Browne – Author of 101 Ways to Create Mindful Forgiveness

Her new book Sassy and Rude provides tangible advice for you to:

  • Connect the dots between your childhood wounds, your parenting style and your daughter’s sassy factor.
  • Gain deeper insight into your daughter’s wounded heart.
  • Stop power struggles once and for all by facing conflict in more constructive ways.
  • Accept responsibility for your own role in creating the rifts, leaving shame and guilt behind.
  • Generate realistic expectations coupled with loving boundaries.
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Criticism calls your partner out. Curiosity calls Criticism calls your partner out. Curiosity calls them in. 

👎 Criticism: Why can’t you just do what I asked you to do?
💡 Curiosity: I noticed that the dishes didn’t get done. What got in the way?

👎 Criticism: You procrastinate too much
💡 Curiosity: What part of the task is the hardest to begin?

When we lead with curiosity instead of criticism, our relationships can grow and evolve without shame. This shift not only strengthens the bond between partners but also encourages a collaborative approach to overcoming challenges together.
As parents, we want to see our children thrive in As parents, we want to see our children thrive in all aspects of life. But some young adults have a difficult time leaving the nest. Some signs are (seemingly) obvious, but others are just as serious and slip through the cracks.

Do any of these sound familiar?
🚨 Unhealthy Relationships
🚨 Increased conflicts
🚨 Addiction issues
🚨 Self-Care Neglect
🚨 Lack of Drive or joy
🚨 Difficulty at work or school
🚨 Excessive use of technology

Remember to reach out for professional help if you or your child needs extra help getting back on the right track.

adult children | healing inner child | self care | help your kids | on the right track | radio host | podcast personality
Are you looking for a fun and informative read? Do Are you looking for a fun and informative read? Don't wait any longer to fix the strained relationship with your adult daughter. "Sassy And Rude: Her New Attitude" is available now from @uranopublishing wherever you get your books online.

🤩 Direct & compassionate help for mothers & daughters - I have featured hundreds of self-help books on TV, but "Sassy and Rude" truly stands out. Dr. Mandel's no-nonsense yet compassionate approach will help mothers and daughters heal old wounds and strife to guide you to a new path towards the relationship you want. With this book, you will be in good hands as Dr. Mandel shares decades of experience both professionally and personally. "Sassy and Rude" is Doctor tested, mother approved!

💜 Dr. Debra Knows Best - I'm a huge fan of Doctor Debra and her work. Her insight on interpersonal relationships between family members is always spot on and this book is no exception. This book helped me form an even stronger relationship with my mother and helped remind me of the many reasons why I love her. Would recommend to any of my friends! ~ Keeks

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Hey, you. Yes, YOU. 💜 It's time to talk to yours Hey, you. Yes, YOU. 💜 

It's time to talk to yourself the way you'd talk to your best friend. 'You're doing great.' 'Tomorrow will be better.' 'You rock.' Say it out loud if you have to. Self-compassion isn't selfish, it's necessary. Your inner voice deserves kindness too. 🪞✨

Save this for the days you need a little reminder. 💬

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While the challenge may not be easy, if you practi While the challenge may not be easy, if you practice the following tips, you should begin to see positive effects on your self-esteem right away.

1️⃣ Get rid of any negative messages you’ve been holding onto from the past. Even if you believe them to be true, it won’t do you any good to harp on them. Transform these negative codes into realistic, positive appraisals. For instance, change “I’m unattractive” into “I have many qualities that appeal to others.”

2️⃣ Claim your right to receive positive energy. Make an active statement daily that emphasizes that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Don’t settle for anything less from anyone, especially from yourself.

3️⃣ Identify your core values and be sure to act in accordance with them. When we behave outside our value system, we create what is called “cognitive dissonance.” The dissonance can lead to anxiety and depression—two very big destroyers of self-esteem. It’s okay to make value adjustments throughout one’s life—but just be aware of what you believe in and be consistent with your actions.

4️⃣ Make every effort to lead a productive life. If you tend to be lazy or to procrastinate, then figure out why, and spend your freed-up energy toward living fully.

5️⃣ Keep a healthy balance between honoring your own needs and respecting those of others. People with positive self-regard are not selfish, but they know how to be self-focused while also caring about other people.

Most importantly, if these self-help methods don’t work or you feel stuck in the trenches, you owe it to yourself to get professional help. The very act of seeking help can be the first step toward building self-esteem!
As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, take some time to think about what's going on with ✨you✨. It can seem daunting at first, but once you get a handle on helping yourself (whether that is alone, with loved ones, or with a trusted professional), it will get better quicker than you could ever imagine! 🧠

This important month serves as a reminder that taking care of our minds is just as crucial as taking care of our bodies. It helps to break down the stigma that surrounds mental health struggles, promoting understanding and empathy.

By raising awareness, we can create a supportive community where individuals feel safe to seek help and share their experiences. Let us use this time to educate ourselves and others, advocate for better mental health resources and acceptance, and celebrate the progress made in mental health care.

Together, we can foster a culture of acceptance and support, ensuring that no one has to face their mental health challenges alone.

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The word “self-esteem” has become as much a part o The word “self-esteem” has become as much a part of our daily conversations as the words “hello” and “good-bye.” We know that having it is good; not having it is bad. And we all pursue getting as much of it as we can. Yet despite all the hoopla about it, many of us remain confused about what it is, especially how to get it.

As a psychologist with over thirty years of experience helping people build a healthy self-image, I’ve come to view self-esteem as comprised of three essential ingredients: self-love, integrity, and responsibility.

💙 Self-love (the experience of embracing, respecting, & valuing our core being) allows us to be nurturing toward ourselves. It enables us to generate compassion and empathy for others.

💙 Integrity (behaving in symphony with our core values) provides the validation of our self-worth, making it real. If we don’t do as we say or say what we mean, we won’t be trusted. Then any sense of self-value becomes based on a facade.

💙 Responsibility (being accountable for our actions, feelings, & thoughts) perpetuates acceptance of our mistakes, humility for our imperfections, and the energy to strive for self-improvement.

These three components provide the foundation to feel good about ourselves, generating a healthy self-image. Practicing self-love, integrity, and responsibility helps to create a balance between appreciating ourselves and valuing others.

Self-esteem doesn’t imply arrogance, as so many of us fear. It does, however, generate confidence and inner strength.

Ideally, our self-esteem develops in childhood. Caregivers create the foundation for positive self-value through demonstrations of love, kindness, and respect for our views and opinions, and a healthy dose of boundaries and structure. However, since so many caregivers lack their own self-worth, they fail to pass along the necessary supplies to their own children. So, many people enter adulthood with holes in the foundation.

The good news is that, even if you didn’t get your emotional needs met and/or if your caregivers treated you in ways that left you feeling unworthy, you can build your self-esteem at any stage of life.
Is there something you could lose in your life tha Is there something you could lose in your life that would allow you to find something better?

➡️ Maybe you’re holding onto feelings of grief, regret, or disappointment.
➡️ Maybe you suffer shame or unresolved trauma from the past.

Could you imagine what your life might be like without the heaviness or burden of carrying something forward that maybe you could finally leave behind?

If so, take the time to heal. You deserve the freedom!
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Dr. Debra received her master’s and doctorate degree in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, Los Angeles

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